In one of Brandy’s most memorable songs, Camouflage, she aptly captures the reaction that comes easiest to us when we are called out on being imperfect. Brandy insists,
|These flaws I got;
they are a part of who I am.|~ Brandy, Camouflage.
Whilst this defensive behavior may have its place, it is often conflated with an adequate justification for personal shortcomings. This is not so, or at least doesn’t have to be so. A great deal of what makes us unique as humans is our ability to change and what better way to exercise this gift than offset habits that weaken us, concurrently picking up habits that make us strong, marketable and easier candidates for self love?
In my opinion, there are two ways of dealing with failures and shortcomings. One applies to when we have tried our best and failed in which case self-compassion is way to go. The other applies when we have not tried our best and failed in which case constructive and abstemious self criticism is most appropriate. In either case, a need for improvement is realisable especially when we understand that not all flaws that we have are a part of who we are but, rather, some are a part of who we have chosen to become.
About The Editor
This article was written by Herbert Uba, an engineering student from Zimbabwe. His simple intentions is to help Zimbabwe by initiating discussions that could be helpful to in personal growth and in national building.